Following my previous post on Life and what is related from familiar motions & emotions that might sound to some as repetitive, I would like to aline an unseperable fact that might have nothing to do with what I was talking about but has everything to do with Human Race natural progress which is Love. I couldn't help not to share it over my space since Love (conditional and/or unconditional) is an essential part for any individual during his personal growing up process.
From 7 Habbits of Highly Effective People:
The Laws of Love & the Laws of Life
When we make deposits of unconditional love, when we live the primary laws of love, we encourage others to live primary laws of life. In other words, when we truly love others without condition, without strings, we help them feel secure and safe and validated and affirmed in their essential worth, identity, and integrity. Their natural growth process is encouraged. We make it easier for them to live the laws of life - cooperation, contribution, self discipline, integrity-and to discover and live true to the highest and best within them. We give them the freedom to act on their own inner imperatives rather than react to our conditions and limitations. This does not mean we become permissive or soft. That itself is a massive withdrawel. We council, we plead, we set limits and consequences. But love, regardless. When we violate the primary laws of love - when we attach strings and conditions to that gift we actually encourage others to violate the primary laws of life. We put them in a reactive, defensive position where they feel they have to prove "I matter as a person, independent of you". In reality, they aren't independent. they are counter-dependent, which is another form of dependency and is at the lowest end of the Maturity Continuum. They become reactive, almost enemy-centered, more concerned about defending their 'rights' and producing evidence of their individuality than they are about proactively listening to and honoring their own inner imperatives. Rebellion is a knot of the heart, not of the mind. The key is to make deposits - constant deposits of Unconditional Love.
Well, I couldn't explain it better if I needed to elaborate same idea and all that cross my mind everytime I read this piece is: "When you shine, you allow people to shine around you"; It's hard but not impossible and we're simply lazy to do it coz it needs courage to face ourselves in order to face others. Everything starts and ends by Us as each one is the center of his/her own Universe. I cannot cut the the reflection without quoting "Coach Carter" in a movie with same name when he said to his team:"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure, it is our light, not our darkness that most frighten us. You are playing small does not serve the world, there's nothing enlightened about shrinking, so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We were all meant to shine as children do, it's not just in some of us, it's in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same, as we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others"
...To be continued....
From 7 Habbits of Highly Effective People:
The Laws of Love & the Laws of Life
When we make deposits of unconditional love, when we live the primary laws of love, we encourage others to live primary laws of life. In other words, when we truly love others without condition, without strings, we help them feel secure and safe and validated and affirmed in their essential worth, identity, and integrity. Their natural growth process is encouraged. We make it easier for them to live the laws of life - cooperation, contribution, self discipline, integrity-and to discover and live true to the highest and best within them. We give them the freedom to act on their own inner imperatives rather than react to our conditions and limitations. This does not mean we become permissive or soft. That itself is a massive withdrawel. We council, we plead, we set limits and consequences. But love, regardless. When we violate the primary laws of love - when we attach strings and conditions to that gift we actually encourage others to violate the primary laws of life. We put them in a reactive, defensive position where they feel they have to prove "I matter as a person, independent of you". In reality, they aren't independent. they are counter-dependent, which is another form of dependency and is at the lowest end of the Maturity Continuum. They become reactive, almost enemy-centered, more concerned about defending their 'rights' and producing evidence of their individuality than they are about proactively listening to and honoring their own inner imperatives. Rebellion is a knot of the heart, not of the mind. The key is to make deposits - constant deposits of Unconditional Love.
Well, I couldn't explain it better if I needed to elaborate same idea and all that cross my mind everytime I read this piece is: "When you shine, you allow people to shine around you"; It's hard but not impossible and we're simply lazy to do it coz it needs courage to face ourselves in order to face others. Everything starts and ends by Us as each one is the center of his/her own Universe. I cannot cut the the reflection without quoting "Coach Carter" in a movie with same name when he said to his team:"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure, it is our light, not our darkness that most frighten us. You are playing small does not serve the world, there's nothing enlightened about shrinking, so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We were all meant to shine as children do, it's not just in some of us, it's in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same, as we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others"
...To be continued....
2 comments:
It's not a must to find this unconditional Love or not, it's something we create in our mind. We cannot find it actually in real life, it's an emotional obstacle, once we cross it, we can deliver such feeling and in return we can hope to have it back but since it's called unconditional, we don't need to wait for the back...
You once mentioned that "Love is a need in disguise" and I found it then so lame definition for such a powerful emotion but again I cannot take my vision as an absolute fact coz it's not, it's just another trial to understand what Humans are all about...
Well put by Covey indeed...
The key is is to make constant deposits of Unconditional Love toward a healthy Dynamics Maturity Continuum.
In that continum "Motions & Emotions" could untie the knot of the heart and mature, breack the heart, or give back the deposited love doubled...
Nice intro PDR ...
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